The guilt trip – Let’s take it!

Have you been on a guilt trip ever? Chances are, yes, and often. It may be that we have really wronged someone in some way or we simply imagined that we wronged someone and then this bad itchy feeling appears from nowhere, which keeps pulling us in the past and worrying us for the future. Most of us have been there, we often let guilt overpower us, sometimes for our entire lifetimes. Most likely, we have at least faced this manipulation tactic, when someone made us feel we weren’t good enough for something or someone and that was enough to make us opt to self-doubt ourselves. This made us feel bad, may be uncomfortable, and imperfect too. But is guilt really such a bad boy?  

Can we instead give this bad boy a second chance? Why not let guilt make us uncomfortable and scared? Why not let it help us realize we all are imperfect at the end of the day? And then why not let guilt show us the way instead, or act as our guiding path, that nudge in our arm, a shaking of our soul to make sure we stay put on the right path that we had started our journey on, in the first place? A little guilt feeling is not that bad. It’s alright to feel guilty when your conscience tells you so, it's alright to feel very bad for a short while on your mistakes. The important thing is to take the lesson and then move on because you just found the wisdom to correct your wrong (or the assumed wrong that you didn’t do).  

So, next time when someone makes you feel you weren’t good enough, think again. Think again before being hard on yourself.  What we choose to do in our life is ours and let no one ever disturb your inner peace & goodness. Your spirit is free and guilt can imprison your spirit, it can weigh you down. So, take the guilt trip, but remember to come back because “Guilt is to the spirit, what pain is to the body”- David A. Bednar. You deserve better. Guilt and anxiety are friends, while guilt takes you back in the past, anxiety keeps you worried about the future. You neither act in the past nor in the future, you act now, in this very moment. So, act while you can and let go. No matter how hard it is, move on. Choose yourself, not others. Believe in yourself, not others. Your mind is a beautiful place, let no one walk through it with their dirty feet.

“You can sit there forever, lamenting about how bad you have been, feeling guilty until you die, and not one tiny slice of that guilt will do anything to change a single thing in the past. So just forgive yourself and move on”-Wayne Dyer.

So, when you are taking the guilt trip, which you will do often, remember the famous saying- sometimes our greatest disappointments today will set us up for God’s best appointments tomorrow. Be thankful for the doors that closed on you. They show us the way to the right one, the one which is now open for you. Let guilt help you show that!